Comfort comes from the uncomfortable.

“man sitting on gray dock” by Simon Migaj on Unsplash

I feel safest when I am in a place that I have never been before. Partially because it is excusable to not understand the things around me, and also because there is no time for suspicion or familiarity to form in reoccurrence. While foreign, the threat you pose in passing by once in a lifetime is so minimal that your steps are forgotten the moment they lift.

People often ask me how I can live in a way that takes me from my relationships and commitments so often, and I reply with the same statement, “because I need to.”

As I grow older, the comfort of strangeness and foreignness has manifested into an addiction for travel; into the need for change. Being beyond the borders that I know best, and understand most, has allowed me to exist in the constant pursuit of what I value — whatever that may be during a particular moment of my life. The things that we care about most are always changing, this fact will always be absolute. Your relationships will change, your job will change, your music taste, your style, your comfort zone — everything will change. How you chose to align your passions with your purposes — that is how you control your change.

While there are obvious threats in being unknown to the people or places around you, there is also a deep comfort in being completely unbound by your environment. Briefly, you are free from the strains of relationships, attendance, and contribution to anything beyond your own human existence. When you are completely alone, without the influence of your comfort system, i.e., your family, friends, significant others, and habits, the only person responsible for your choices is yourself.

When you decide to hold yourself responsible for who you are, the progress is both created and accounted for. Over time, you will learn that validation from the self for the self is enough to grow. Once you start to question your authenticity, your value, or your desirability, that is when your environment needs a break from you as much as you need a break from your environment.

Human beings are migratory by nature. They are also creative, skillful, and familial. Relocating yourself will not distort who you are, it will only augment that which you could not organize prior. As creatures who understand life as being an inevitable journey, it would be foolish to deny the self the accumulation of physical distance.

Editor-in-Chief | Journalist | Creative Director. Everything here is inspired by conversations with friends.

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